The Most Effective Ways to See a Person's True Personality

1. Observe their actions when they are under pressure.

2. When you give them a lot of power and responsibility.

3. Compare what they say with what they do. Never trust words alone.

4. Observe if they can keep appointments

5. Ask them for help and see if they will show up.

6. Lend them money and see if they will return it, without you reminding them about it.

7. Compliment or even flatter them to know if they play their accomplishments down and show genuine humbleness or brag about the achievements.

8. Observe if they take responsibility for their life or always looking for someone to blame in everything.

9. Observe how they behave when they are drunk or high. If they can be aggressive, emotional, look for troubles or let out any underlying issues or personality.

10. Find out their role model. Someone they are looking up to.

11. Find out the type of books they read or if they even read at all

12. Observe how they treat animals, children or anyone that does not have control over them.


13. Observe how they talk to staff, waiters, cleaners, gatemen or security people.

14. Observe how they talk about the other gender or their judgement of other sex.

15. Observe their conversations. Are they discussing things or people?

Life has treacherous paths
A man can wander off his track
And fall into a ditch or
Stray into Marshland
When a man finds himself in such a situation
He must take a deep breath.
From a deep ditch, he needs a rope
From a marsh land, a sinking ground
The more he struggles, the deeper he sinks
He needs to be pulled out.
But sometimes such a trapped person calls for help and no one listens
Because they had exhausted all the people around them before the big **** happened
So they shout and shout and nobody cares
And they expire in those traps
So in life it's advisable not to shout 911 to family and friends except there is a real emergency
But there is the other group
They are too proud to scream for help
So they fall into a mess and hide it from everyone
Until it eats them up from within
While it's not good to bring people into your problems too quickly
Because a man must have dignity
You must know when you have no chance of coming out of it no matter how hard you try
Many of the suicides that have happened around here are due to mental illnesses
But a good chunk are not
Many are caused by shame
A man falls into a mess
And conceals the depth of the ****
To protect his reputation, he digs and digs
By the time he gives up, nobody can believe him
So he decides not to give them a chance to caricature him
To wonder what had come over him
He deletes himself. For that's the dignity
Look around you someone might be nearing that turning point now
Because there is no one around them who is spiritually mature they can turn to without being judged and humiliated
They can't talk to their pastors or imams because they are shallow and would use them to preach
It's a huge problem
So the troubled soul loiters and loiters and before the mess spills out totally,
He ends it all.
I don't have a clean solution to this quagmire
But I tell those in such situations never to give up
The earth rotates
And nothing lasts for too long
Shame is transient. And can be wiped by good deeds and success.
So a troubled soul must forget about what he thinks the world might say
He must fight and conquer the thoughts of shame and humiliation
True, friends will spread the story and mock him
Yes, friends are worse than enemies in this
But
The earth is a speed train. He must face his future with determination knowing that many others who confronted even bigger problems surmounted them.
The world moves on quickly. Don't take any rash decisions
If you are in a sordid mess, pray
Then find someone to tell the whole truth. Tell two or three people
Tell people that can help you focus on a realistic solution
Once you let out the truth, your healing starts
By Ugo Egbujo

When World War II broke out David Oguntoye hid in a ship and travelled to Britain to volunteer for the Royal Air Force.

He arrived in Britain in June 1942, and was selected to train as a navigator for four years in Canada. By the time he was returning to Britain in 1946, the war had already ended, meaning that he could not be deployed ot the battlefield.

He was instead posted to Bicester, Oxford as a welfare officer for the Caribbean airmen stationed there. In June of same year, Dulcie King, a young beautiful white lady, also serving in the Royal Air Force, was posted to the same station to serve as an education instructor.

The two fell in love and began courting something that shocked the military. Then, interracial marriages were really resented in Britain, and to make it worse this was happening in the military. Her commanding officer summoned and warned her about going out with a Black person.

Most of the officers disliked the fact that Dulcie had chosen a black boyfriend. Furthemore it was Ministry of Defence's policy that interracial relationships should not be allowed to thrive in the military. They transferred her to another station in an attempt to break the relationship, but the love was too strong.

On one occasion a group of airmen tried to attack David, but Dulcie intervened to protect him. The couple who were now both holding the rank of Flight Sergeant, continued to be seen together, and in October 1946 they attended a dance at Royal Air Force Bicester.

To rub salt in the wound, for the first time they decided to hold each other in public as other airmen watched. “He sat on the arm of my chair with his arm ostentatiously around me. This, of course, was something we never normally did in public, but we intended to demonstrate unmistakably our relationship,” Dulcie recalled.

One month later the two decided to leave the Royal Air Force and got married immediately on 16 November 1946 despite the opposition from her parents. They both trained as lawyers in London before leaving for Nigeria in 1954 where they settled permanently. Because he was considered a chief by his tribe Flight Sergeant David went on to marry five other wives , however, this did not in anyway affect their relationship. She was contented with being the first wife.

They went on to start a law firm together and in 1960, she denounced her British citizenship. In 1964, David Oguntoye was selected as a Court President while Dulcie Oguntoye became first a Magistrate and, in 1976, a High Court Judge. She was the first woman on the Lagos State bench and the second female judge in Nigeria after Modupe Omo-Eboh.

When David died in June 1997, she took charge as a ‘benevolent matriarch’ to her late husband’s family until her death in 2018.